Happy Mother’s Day!
In May 2012, Time magazine started a firestorm with a cover that asked, “Are you Mom enough?” It was an article about attachment parenting being extended beyond the baby year(s). We men hear a phrase like “Man up!” But I have never heard the phrase, “Mom up!” However, when we look at the expectations that we place on our mothers that we get from the world, it is surprising that more moms don’t just check out. The expectations are unreasonable but there they lurk, as snares that whisper to our mothers. Is the house clean and neat? Are the children well behaved? Are the meals tasty and healthy? Is the husband satisfied all the time? In addition, there are the insecurities driven by work performance that also taunt our mothers.
The truth is we expect our moms to be perfect. This is because our mothers are usually the first representation of a God-like figure in our life. They are the ones who love us. And that love is an unconditional love. As I have said before, (and I know this might seem insensitive), a baby is the most selfish person on the planet. Its only communication method is to scream or cry. And yet, out of love, a mother is able to interpret all of those different sounds, which all sound the same to me, and she brings comfort to her child. Why? Her beloved is suffering, and that is reason enough for her to do whatever it takes.
One of the things that I decry in today’s western society is the disparagement of motherhood. I believe in today’s society, motherhood is truly a calling. With all of the forces arrayed against children, to steal, kill, or destroy their destinies as God’s children, for a mother to faithfully show up every day is a monumental request. Yet moms do this. They do this through both the mundane and the frightful. This is no less monumental whether they are picking up the dirty sock in the living room for the umpteenth time or they are taking the child to the hospital with a concussion. They bring all they have, with the best they can do, all the time.
As you may gather, I am grateful, not just for my mom (who is wonderful!), but for all moms! I want to say this:
Hoping we all have a Happy Mothers’ Day!